She tells you she loves you, but the way she behaves seems otherwise. It started out fine and full of promise. But as time goes on, you cannot help but shake that feeling that she is using you, and giving nothing in return. Is she using you?
Every now and then, you may meet a girl who seems to fit snugly into the dream definition of a perfect girlfriend.
But if you ever feel a flicker of confusion in those first few weeks, chances are, she’s using you or she’s just put you on her waiting list until she makes up her mind.
It’s frustrating to realize that you’re being used, even when you’re trying to be a great boyfriend or a sex buddy.
She may try to convince you that she truly loves you and wants to be with you, but five minutes later, her behavior may change and she may just act friendly all over again.
Signs to find out if she’s using you!!!
She wants a lot of space
Are you dating a girl who calls and messages you often or wants to meet you only when in need and having done that, and then completely ignores you for the next few days? While playing hard to get may excite a guy, this is pushing the game too far.
Every time she ignores you or pushes you away, you may find yourself falling more madly in love with her. On the other hand, she’s probably interested in a few other guys or sleeping with them, just to work out her options. When a girl claims to love a guy, and yet avoids the guy completely for a few days every now and then, there’s a good chance there’s another guy in her life.
Behaves like a friend
Does your new girlfriend behave like a friend now and then? She hugs you and cuddles you, and then pushes you away and tells you it’s all happening too fast and she’s not ready for it?
Ouch, any girl who behaves like a girlfriend but prefers to stay friends is obviously using your love and affection to feel better about herself.
Never wants to meet your friends
If your girlfriend is constantly finding new ways to talk her way out of meeting all your friends then it’s possible she’s using you. While the reasons why may vary her intentions are undeniable. If she’s not interested in meeting the people you spend time with then she’s obviously not imagining being a part of your long term future.
Never asks you to meet her friends or family
If you have been together for a while and you’ve still not had the opportunity to meet her family nor have you spent much time with her friends, then there’s a good chance she’s not really seeing you as someone who will play an important role in her future plans. If a girl is genuinely interested in you, chances are she’ll want to show you off to everyone close to her right from the outside. If she's convinced that you're the man in her life, she'd proudly make you meet her friends. If this doesn’t happen, it might be time to have a word with yourself.
Confused about your relationship status
Now she may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she’s just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she’s confused.If she truly does love you, there’s nothing to be confused about unless she’s still in love with another guy. If that’s the case, you’re not the winner here. You’re the scapegoat filling up the blanks when her boyfriend or another guy doesn’t have the time for her.
You’re not introduced as a boyfriend
This is a no brainer here. But it’s something most guys in love almost always forgive and forget. Have you ever been introduced as just a friend? If she’s convinced that you’re the man in her life, she’d proudly display you like a primped up puppy in a dog show. But if she’s just using you, there’s a very good chance that you relationship status will remain as friends.
Talks about her complicated love life
Do you spend more time consoling her or telling her how the mistakes in her life aren’t really her fault? Girls who end up using guys are confused women who want to be reassured and loved all the time. She may be losing the love of her own guy, and may want you to reassure her about her own relationship and fill her life with happiness and extravagant gifts.
And yes, she wouldn’t mind cuddling up with you once in a while for all the nice things you’ve been doing for her. This is seriously messed up!
Dominates the relationship
Does she call you up whenever she feels like it, or asks you to meet her at her whims and fancies? A girl who throws her weight around a guy knows she’s already got him wrapped around her little finger. Don’t ever be that guy. You’d end up shattered almost all the time and you’d lose all the confidence you have.Turn the table around and throw her around a bit. Two things can happen here. She’d take you more seriously, or she’s walk out of your life. Either ways, it’s a good thing for you.
She makes out but only when she wants to
You may sweet talk her and take her out to expensive dinners, all in the hope of getting some love and appreciation back from her. And of course, a little bit of making out too.
But if you’re in love with a girl who’s using you, nothing really matters. She’d let you dance on hot coals almost all the time and make out with you only when she feels like it. She initiates it and she ends it, at her whims.
Wants you to listen, but not the other way around
Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex boyfriend was and why she had to cheat on him just to show him she has other options? Or does she confess to you about making out with a few other guys and wants you to tell her she’s not wrong and that she did the right thing?
And on the other hand, every time you try telling something to her, does she forget all about it or feign drowsiness?
A girl who only wants to talk and feel good about herself isn’t in love with you. She’s using you as a priest to feel good about her own shortcomings. If she did love you, she’d be more interested to know about you and your life than whining about her own guilty confessions.
She’s in another relationship
Almost always, relationships where the guy is being used starts off with conversations about complicated love lives. The girl you like may already be in a relationship, and with each conversation you have, both of you may fall more in love with each other. She wants to go out with you, she loves to talk to you, and she can’t wait to spend time and make out with you.
But she doesn’t want to leave her own boyfriend or end her relationship with him. She tells you she’s not happy, but she doesn’t do a thing about it.If you find yourself experiencing any of these signs that you’re being used, you better walk out of the confusing affair before you end up with a broken heart. After all, she’s probably got a few backups with whom she’s playing the same game anyways.
She may not do this intentionally just to hurt you, it’s just that she’s a selfish little cutie who cares more about her own happiness than anything else in the world.
Few More Sign "Is She Using You"
When you go on dates look at her, if she really likes you she will look happy and excited, if not that is a bad sign.
When you go out and she always expects a gift or you to pay for everything, this is another bad sign. If she was using you, she would be disappointed if you don't bring her anything or dress a little messy.
Tell her you're a little short on cash and if she would pitch in. If she seems unhappy to do it, another sign.
If she would rather flirt with other boys than with you, this is a big bad sign.
Is she using you?
So what do you do about it now that you know she’s using you?
You have two options.
Walk out of her relationship drama before you get hurt.
Lose the love and just start using her back. With any luck, by removing love out of the equation, there’s a good chance you’ll behave more like a bad boy instead of a lost puppy and make her desire you a lot more!
Warning:
Do not go fast, take your time studying her, she may just be dependent on you and if you dump her it might be a big mistake.
It’s easy for a girl to use a guy because both sexes are used to the ritual of a guy pursuing the girl. Sometimes, she may reciprocate and fall in love. At other times, she may just end up using you. So what do you think, is she using you?
