Men and women often want different things from their relationships. If you're emotionally involved with a guy, it's possible that he might not feel as deeply. It happens to the best of you, you are hanging out with a guy, having a good time, but underneath it all something just doesn’t feel quite right. Well, ladies, the reason could be because a guy is using you. We’re not saying it’s definite, If he is using you, there will be some signs right out in the open, but you might not know it! If you have a feeling that he is using you, it might not be a healthy relationship to be in.
Some men are just out for a hookup buddy...
Ladies, you deserve better than just someone using you!!!
Here are few how to know if you're being used:
HE ISN'T TRUE TO HIS WORDS
This man knows how to speak to your heart, and you love the things that he says to you, but as we all know, actions speak louder than words. No matter how his words make you feel, if he isn’t proving them to you and living up to them, his words hardly mean a thing at all.
HE'S ONLY AVAILABLE WHEN HE NEEDS SOMETHING FROM YOU
What about his availability? Do you constantly find that he isn't available unless he needs something from you? This is definitely a sign he is using you. After all, don't you want a guy that is going to be available when you need him to be? Not just when he needs you?
FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON YOU
Not only do you pay for everything, but he is actually financially dependent on you. He expects you to pay all of the bills that you two have, no questions asked. He doesn't even contribute to the monthly bills that he has racked up with you. This is a sign he is using you and you shouldn't stand for it!
YOU PAY EVERY TIME YOU GO OUT
Even though the guy is supposed to pay in the beginning, you constantly find yourself paying for every single thing when you two go out. Does that seem to be the case with your relationship? That's definitely one of the top signs he is using you. While it's okay to split the bill, you shouldn't constantly be pulling your wallet out to pay all of the time.
EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
When something goes wrong, this man is somehow able to push the blame onto you. No matter what the problem is, some way or another, this guy is able to pinpoint you as the one who caused it to happen. When a guy does nothing but blame you for the bad things in his life, he’s truly only putting you through emotional blackmail. Leave this guy and let him suffer through his own issues.
YOU ARE HIS CONVENIENCE
Are you constantly finding yourself his convenience for a ride or for an 'allowance'? That should never be the case when you are in a mature relationship. Everything should be even; you should never be someones 'convenience'.
HE NEVER BUYS ANYTHING SPECIAL FOR YOU
In a relationship, it’s all about give and take. On your man’s birthday, you shower him with gifts, and you’re the type of woman to buy him a present here and there, just because. On the other hand, this guy rarely gives you anything that shows he cares about you. If you’re with a guy who can’t treat you to something nice every once-in-a-while. That's a sign ladies. After all, shouldn't your boyfriend buy you some things sometimes?
HE IS ONLY AROUND WHEN HE NEEDS YOU
When it’s convenient for you, this man shows up or makes time to contact you. If he needs a ride to work, needs a lunch, or needs a few dollars to pay his cell phone bill, he’s contacting you as quickly as possible. However, when he isn’t in need of anything you can provide, rarely do you hear from him and rarely is he around. When a guy is using you, he’ll usually only show up when it’s convenient. It's a sign girls!
DOESN'T CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS
Does your boyfriend take any of your feelings into account?
Does he even think about how his actions affect you?
No matter how much you tell this guy that certain things make you tick or make you sad, he doesn’t seem to take it in and consider your thoughts and feelings. Instead, he does what he wants to do without ever stopping to think about how his actions may make you feel. One of the biggest signs that a guy is using you is the fact that he couldn’t care less about your feelings. This could be a sign he is using you ladies!
HE ONLY COMES HOME AT NIGHT
Once you see a pattern that your partner comes home late at night, it is a sure red flag in your relationship. Although it is typical for some men to come back late after a night with friends, usually this as a frequent and cyclical pattern can only mean that he wants you for one thing only. And that doesn't include anything along the lines of emotional bonding.
NEVER TAKES YOU OUT IN PUBLIC
Dating, especially at its early stages, should not be done in secret unless there are extreme circumstances. Your partner should feel comfortable being seen with you, no matter the time or day. However, if he insists on a private relationship, you know that it will be doomed sooner or later.
NEVER GOES THROUGH WITH YOUR PLANS
If a men is interested in getting to know you, he will put in every effort in order to see you and get the chance to talk to you. When you two get to spend time together, things go pretty well. But, when you make plans to spend time with him, he’s often the one that has to cancel the plans, and most of the time his excuses aren’t very good ones. your partner doesn't seem to care about spending time together. Continuously cancelled plans are a good sign that a guy is using you.
IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU
Once you realize that your partner has no interest in getting to you as a person and what you stand for, you know that he can't possibly be genuine about his feelings toward you. After all if his interest doesn't lie in you, unfortunately he might be using you for something else.
NEVER INTRODUCING YOU TO FRIENDS OR FAMILY
We all know that the next step in a serious relationship is meeting the friends and the family. However, if your partner never comes around to it and keeps changing the subject, you know that he doesn't see a future nor does he plan it with you. If he doesn't take the relationship seriously, he will have no intention of bringing you into his inner circle.
YOUR GUT IS WARNING YOU
Sometimes when your head says one thing and your heart says another, you have to listen to your gut. You might have doubts about your other half for a reason and it only makes sense to explore them to ensure the validity of those feelings. If you feel that something is not right, don't just ignore what your gut is telling you because believe it or not, sometimes everything is not what it seems.
THERE IS NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
If there is no emotional connection between two people, the only reason for the existence of a relationship between them is purely based on selfish interests. Think about it, if there is no emotional and psychological link between two people, the only thing that is anchoring them to each other are physical needs or selfish motives.
Ladies, if you see any of these signs he is using you, it isn't a healthy relationship. So girls, have you ever been in a relationship that had any of these signs he is using you?
